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Posted December 8, 2016 |
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You Gotta Adjust, Dude …
(Or Dudette!!)
By
Merritt and
Taffy
You know … I’ve had some crappy
things occur to me during my short, little life.
Abandonded and involved in a pretty serious accident where I lost
my right rear appendage, I was alone and lonely - but never scared!
(you don’t need to know the rest of the nitty gritty details)!!
My story is a little different, I
had a home and a job …
but I got hurt on that job.
When my former owner learned that I probably wouldn’t ever be a top
performer due to the “on the job” injury – they asked the vet to put me
down.
We both learned that sometimes you might have to
adjust some of your beliefs in order to deal with some of the crappy
things that happen to you in your life[i]!
You see, we believe - that
what you believe, has
a significant impact on just how you will perceive the bad crap that
happens to you (it can also influence things that you just “think” might
happen!). As an example, if
you build your life around your job, losing it can hurt you a lot more
than if you believe that you can switch jobs and still be happy.
Changing your beliefs can help
make the inevitable bad events, that occur to all of us, easier to deal
with.
When you’ve dealt with the sort of things that we’ve both dealt
with, a “Negative Nellie” attitude probably would’ve gotten us both some
really bad outcomes! We were
both extremely … what’s that?
What does “Negative Nellie” mean?
Well, this phrase has been around for a long time – you see,
"Old Nell" was a
playful nickname for an old, worn down horse. A high strung horse
became a "Nervous Nellie".
The name started to be applied to fearful or nervous people, and later
acquired the connotation of cowardly. “Nervous
Nellie” then acquired the connotation of "naysayer" and gave rise to
similar terms like “Negative Nellie”, “Naysayer Nellie”, “Negative Ned”
and “Negative Nancy” (no offense intended Mrs. Nancy – we know that
you’re a pretty positive kind of lady!).
So there you are … can we proceed now?
As we were saying, we were both extremely fortunate that the fine
folks at
ABCR
became involved in each of our respective predicaments and
took some heroic action to help save our lives!
We suspect that
ABCR
tries their dangedest to
rescue all of the BC’s that are in need … but, we believe, that our
individual attitudes most likely made their decisions easier (or, at a
minimum, made them happier about their decision to expend their limited
resources for our future after they learned how bright and shiny that
our personalities and dispositions were!)!
That is, we never lost our hopeful, optimistic and loving
attitudes – and they were actually strengthened by the events that
brought about our involvement with
ABCR!
I was fostered by GiGi who took me into her home
after my leg was amputated and she shared her home and lots of love
until I was ready to head out west!
And I was fostered by Shirley who took me in after my
leg was fixed up - she also shared her home, lots of love, and even some
“physical therapy” on my bum hip.
I too, then headed out west.
We saw some thinking
on “Barking Up the Wrong Tree”[ii]
that espoused that many of the bad events in our life are only as bad as
we want to think that they are.
For
example, a kiddo might break down and cry over something as simple as a
broken toy, but to them that toy is important.
Likewise, even adults might feel like
their life is over if someone “breaks up” with them.
However,
a slight perspective change can make a world of difference:
Let’s say that you get dumped by someone you’re totally in love with. Feel sad? Heck, yeah. The world (as you know it) is going to end!
Okay, let’s play the same scenario, but after you get dumped, let’s
say that you find out that person was actually a psychopath who killed
their last three partners. Feel
sad you got dumped now? Nope!
You’re tickled!! How
could you be so lucky.
So clearly “getting dumped” isn’t the important factor here.
What changed?
Nothing but the beliefs that you
carried into the encounter.
If you lose your job and
believe
it was a lousy position and
believe
it won’t be hard for you to get a better job, you’re unfazed by it.
If you
believe
it was the greatest job ever and
believe
you’ll never get another one that good — you’re gonna be devastated.
You see, emotions aren’t random - they come from our beliefs. Or …
the Stoics[iii]
(those are the brilliant old guys, you know … Ancient Wisdom – not to be
confused with our dear ol’ Ronny (who regurgitates a different kind of
wisdom!!!)!!!) are saying there are no good or bad events, there’s only
your perception. Shakespeare said
it well, “Nothing either good nor bad but thinking makes it so.”
Shakespeare and the Stoics are
saying that the world around us is indifferent, it is objective.
The Stoics are saying that, “This
happened to me,” is not the same as, “This happened to me and that’s
bad.” They’re telling you that if
you stop at the first part, you will be much more resilient and much
more able to make some good out of anything that happens.
We believe that this is soooo true!
Dad said that it has been almost a year (but I’ve
only started on his training!
He has a pretty long way to go!) that I’ve been on the place.
Through it all – I can assure you
that I have never lost my sunny disposition, and add in my stubborn,
bull headed attitude … we will
make it work – Dang It!! I
have made a home here, and it is the bestest place that I have ever
been. Dad stays amazed at my
resilience, and is proud that I act as if I have no idea that I am
missing a leg! I don’t let
it slow me down, or limit me, at all!
So far, I am letting Miss Merritt take the lead on
the training of all of our people (especially dad!), but I am setting my
agenda too! Me too – through
it all, I never lost my puppy enthusiasm and my acceptance of – and love
for – life … but … hey … isn’t this the way it’s supposed to be?
It’s all I know, after all!
No point in whining about it, shake it off and go do something
worthwhile (even if it’s just laying in the sun!)!
I have nothing but love for ALL the people I meet in my forever
home and the other black dogs too!
Obviously you can’t change your entire world
view every time you drop your ice cream cone (and some of the crap that
happens will just be really BAD
crap … let’s just face that!), but if you
are able to make some small tweaks to your belief system, you might be
able to manage some of your bad events more better than you have.
Sometimes life sucks, but
how you think about
the bad times matters just as much as what you do about it.
The way we see it - is that if you’re still breathing … go on out
there and SIEZE THE DAY (you know … yeah , it’s that ol’ CARPE DIEM
stuff again!) It can be
worse MY FRIENDS!! Hey – I am destined
to hop around on three legs for the rest of my life … and I
AM a bad-ass! Sometimes,
though, it’s tough to pull off the bad-ass attitude when you are hopping
around … but I CAN (and
will!) pull it off! Just try
me … ! Yeah, Life is More
Better Than Good! And me … I’m gimped
up (and skinny … not to mention that dad says that I am not that most
attractive BC specimen that he has ever seen … well actually he says
that I am pretty “Fugly”) – but they love me bunches around this place,
and I love them too! God is
Great! Love to all of you, especially during this most
Holy of Seasons! We wish nothing but the best for all of you!
And, if you encounter any difficulties, we hope that this little
article helps … at least a little! Love,
Merritt and Taffy
Neither of us had the opportunity to meet Miss Patches, but she was
(and still is) extremely well thought of around this place and her
stories serve as inspiration to both of us.
Therefore, instead of
quotes, we’d like
to close out with some links to some articles that we think are well
worth reading (or re-reading) and absolutely tie into our message today
(there really is some good stuff back there – go back and re-read some)!
Just Get Over It …, by Patches – updated 12-10-15
(originally posted 02-16-12)
Carpe diem, quam minimum credula postero,
by Patches –
02-26-15
When It All Looks Like Crap … Be Ossimistic!,
by
Patches – 06-24-13
Life Is Good (vs. 107 degrees) …,
By
Patches – 08-09-12
It Just Feels Good!, by Patches – 01-26-12
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[i]
The idea for this article was from
http://lifehacker.com/adjust-your-beliefs-to-handle-the-crappy-events-in-your-1787057846?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+lifehacker%2Ffull+%28Lifehacker%29
by
Eric Ravenscraft
[ii]
You can read all about the site at:
http://www.bakadesuyo.com/blog/
[iii]
Stoicism teaches the development of self-control and fortitude
as a means of overcoming destructive emotions.
You can read a lot more (we didn’t really
understand it) at:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stoicism |
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