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Posted June 25, 2015 |
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STOP Doing That!!! (part one)
Hello there!
This is ol’ Patches coming to you once again to share some of
my little pearls of wisdom that I have found on the internet.
If you’re even a semi-regular reader of this site, you know
that dad has referred to me as the Ossimistic[i]
pup on multiple occasions!
That makes me feel pretty swell – you know that life has
dealt me some pretty tough knocks[ii]
… but I decided, way early on, that I was going to do my bestestest
to focus on things that would keep me on the sunny side!
I figure that just about anyone (except Drunk Henry) can be
grumpy and miserable – well, that’s the lazy way out … folks that
are happy have to work at it a little bit … but boy ol’ boy, is it
worth it!!!!
You see, the way I figure it, happiness - in your business life
and your personal life - is often a matter of subtraction, not
addition.
Therefore, I’ve
compiled a list (along with Jeff’s help[iii])
of THINGS that you
should
STOP doing:
Blaming
People (and dogs too) make mistakes.
Employees don't meet your expectations.
People don't deliver on time.
Old bosses can be jerks!
So you blame them for your problems ...
STOP:
Maybe you didn't explain your desires well enough.
Maybe you didn't build in
enough of a buffer.
Maybe he
has a Napoleon complex[iv].
You become empowered when you accept responsibility when things go
wrong on your watch, which will cause you to focus on doing things
better and smarter next
time. And when you get better
or smarter, you also get happier.
Impressing
Folks don’t like you for your possessions, your title, or your
accomplishments.
Some people
may like your things - but that doesn't mean they like you.
And, if they only like you superficially, you’re better off
without them!
STOP:
Genuine relationships make
you happier.
You'll only
form genuine relationships when you stop trying to impress and start
just being yourself.
Clinging
When we’re afraid or insecure, we tend to hold on tightly to what we
know (which also includes the
bad stuff and stuff we know that we should let go of).
Now remember that an absence of fear or insecurity isn't
necessarily happiness, it's just an absence of fear or insecurity.
STOP:
As long as you’re busy hanging on to stuff that you think you
need, you can’t reach for and try to grab on to what you want.
You may not always be successful, but I reckon that the act
of trying should make you feel better about yourself.
Interrupting
Interrupting is just plain rude.
When
you interrupt someone, what you're really saying is, "I'm not
listening to you, I’m just trying to decide what I want to say!"
STOP:
Listen, focus, ask questions when folks are visiting with you!
They'll love you for it … and you'll love how that makes you
feel.
Whining
Your words have power, MOSTLY over you.
I believe that whining about
your problems makes you feel worse, and can give others a negative
impression of you!
If
something bothers you, don't waste time complaining – work on fixing
it!
STOP:
Bitchin’ about what's wrong.
Explain
how you're gonna make things better, even if you’re just visitin’
with yourself!
Don't
just be a shoulder for your buppies to cry on.
Friends don't let friends
whine; friends help friends make their lives better.
Well, Jeff has ten points, and they are all certainly worth sharing
… I have part two written and will post it in a little while.
I didn’t want to consume your evening with reading my
ramblings.
But, I
certainly do appreciate your time in reading this … hope it has, at
least, given you something to think about!
Consider, just for a minute (or however long you need to!), how
STOPPING these aspects of your day to day will impact it – not only
for you, but for those around you as well!!!
What’s it gonna hurt to try?
Worst case scenario … and if it’s your last day at work, you
can always follow Johnny Cash’s example with ol’ Oney[v]!
Remember folks … follow your arrow!
[i]
This is a word that dad invented while watching me recover.
Basically, it is a healthy cross between
optimistic and pessimistic.
I’m thinking that to be
truly balanced and in an attempt to deal with this crazy old
world – you need some of both in your life.
So I believe that it’s important to stay Ossimistic.
[iii]
Adapted from
Want to
Be Happier? Stop Doing These 10 Things Right Now
by
Jeff Haden.
Jeff is a ghostwriter, speaker, LinkedIn Influencer, and
contributing editor for
Inc.
More info can be found about him (including more
writings) at
http://www.inc.com/author/jeff-haden
[iv]
Define by Urban Dictionary as follows:
A personality complex that consists of power trips
and false machismo to make up for short height and feelings
of inferiority.
[v]
http://www.ask.com/youtube?q=oney+by+johnny+cash&v=fzr4nA1thsQ&qsrc=472
– watch the video for a fun explanation!
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