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Posted March 17, 2015 |
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Bromance[i] … WTH!!!! (what the heck????)
By Rooney
None of us around this place had ever given
much attention to that term before we saw that episode of “How The
States Got Their Shapes” quite a while back!
Now, I don’t know what the kids have done to the meaning of
that term now … but we’ve been thinking about the concept for quite
a while now (this article has been four years in the writing –
as of today) … yeah …
Damn Good term we
think! “IT” was already in full bloom by the time
that I came into
the picture … so, I never really thought anything about it.
As far as I knew, it was just the way that things were, and
were supposed to be!
They weren’t brothers … didn’t even know each other until the end of
their college years – and even then, they ‘only knew each other’.
They met back up again in 1995, had a conflict with mutual
interest … which became a cause … they formed a pretty special bond,
and then they were pretty much inseparable.
You could generally look once, see one; look again, yeah, there’s
the other. If they
didn’t see each other every day, they would visit on the phone.
Yeah, it WAS a Bromance.
But, it ended way too early … on March 17, 2011. Kinda hard to imagine now why the bond stuck
as hard and as fast as it did … the only real connections were work
ethic and beer … guess that’s enough!!!!
Goodness knows that there was quite a bit of work done, and
much more beer drank (the two activities consistently overlapped
don’t you know!)! The
relationship started with the never ending pitchers at Sarah’s,
while discussing work issues and just naturally migrated to all of
the questions and ponderings on life and other mysteries.
In deference to our late ‘brother’s’
homophobic fears, he would prefer
Aristotle's classical
description of friendship which is often taken to be the prototype
of bromance, and what he and dad shared … Aristotle wrote, around
330 BC, "It is those who desire the good of their friends for the
friends' sake that are most truly friends, because each loves the
other for what he is, and not
for any incidental quality.”
It wasn’t the money … It wasn’t the trips to Vegas …
wasn’t the building/engineering assistance or labor … or any other
things which are none of your business to know anyway[ii] … they genuinely cared for each other!!!!
They comfortably enjoyed each other’s company.
Respected each other’s opinion (might not have agreed all the
time, but respected – none the less.)
It was, in all aspects … a
truly symbiotic relationship!!!!
It might sound silly, but a Bromance is
just what it was … in the strictest definition, they were buds and
they
had major plans for the future.
But other things came up … the plans got
turned upside down … we know that several other folk’s plans were
messed up too, some sincere … some, not so much.
No one knows why it happened … many of us have questioned it
--- no answers have been found, and there will be no answers in this
life, as we know it. I
have to think that there is some sort of master plan … some
blueprint that we’re not privy to, yet.
Hey … we’re just along for this ride.
We can (and should, to some degree) lament the past, but we
have to keep a firm grip on the future … REALLY!
Just because a life on earth has ended, we’ve still got a
role to play, and play it we must … play it as hard and as fast as
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We have lives … folks expecting of us …
other folks to meet and more of our own dreams to fulfill!
We can’t get it done sitting
on the couch feeling sorry for ourselves and eating bon-bons! Besides, we’ve got
other bromances in place (not at all to replace … but, in addition
to). The wife of one of
dad’s doesn’t even question it … it just is, and has been, and will
be!
The other “new” wife (love you AMC!) might still be a little
jealous and asks “Is it your ‘girlfriend’ calling[iii]?”
… but I think she’s ok with it too!
Ronny and David are cool!
Hey, after all, we have serious bromances going on here!
Life does go on! Well, I was just about to close out this
article when Annie pointed out that there may be some of ya’ll still
snickering about the idea of a bromance and while I won’t repeat
what she said, I will clarify Bromance for you ... listen carefully
now ...:
It is like a best friend, also referred to as BFFs, or even
"besties." These are people
who you are very close to, and who you spend a great deal of time
with (even if only on the phone, or texting!). They are the first
person you call when you're excited, hurt, or just want to chat.
Best friends can often feel
like family because they are there for us during the most important
moments in our life.
Some examples of bromances with famous people seem to include Hank
Williams, Jr./Kid Rock, and Kenny Chesney/Tim McGraw.
We can also have Galmance’s too …. Love those Pistol Annies …
wish they were still together!!! This has me
thinking – is it possible to have a bromance threeway … Dad, Donald
and Roosevelt? Hmmm,
that sounds a little too odd to say out loud, doesn’t it?!
Well, based on the stories that I’ve heard, I think that
Roosevelt was just a fluffer[iv]!
He was their Bartender after all (you know … kept them ready to
go!!!!) Yeah, in any event, it WAS a bromance – I imagine that ol’
Donald is just turning over in his grave thinking about the
potential jokes that could have been (and were) made about this …. Heaven is beautiful from here … I hope it’s
just as beautiful up there, my friend! Dad, Roo and The Crew Oprah Winfrey (loved those Natural Lights ... at the time!) My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me. Silences make the real conversations between friends. Not the saying but the never needing to say is what counts. Margaret Lee Runbeck Where you used to be, there is a hole in the world, which I find myself constantly walking around in the daytime, and falling in at night. I miss you like hell. My old grandmother always used to say, Summer friends will melt away like summer snows, but winter friends are friends forever. George R.R. Martin The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart. The best kind of friend is the one you could sit on a porch with, never saying a word, and walk away feeling like that was the best conversation you’ve had. It is the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter. Marlene Dietrich Best friends? Well, I guess you could call us that but I think we are more like brothers. Author Unknown PS – Yeah, You know that I had to!!!! our bro - Richard Donald Herschap
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[i]
Bromance
is a portmanteau of the words
bro or
brother and romance.
Editor Dave Carnie
coined the term in the skateboard magazine Big Brother
in the 1990s to refer specifically to the sort of
relationships that develop between skaters who spent a great
deal of time together.
[ii]
“Well, I know you like a brother.
And
I know you as well.
There's
some things we could talk about, some things we'd never
tell.
A
few things in particular, an episode or two.
I
could write a book about you.”
Waylon Jennings and Willie Nelson,
I Could Write A Book About You
[iii]
“I ain’t drinking alone …
I’m on the phone with my brother!”
Max Stalling,
I Ain’t Drinking Alone
[iv]
If you think you know what it means ... you
REALLY
have to read THIS
definition -
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=fluffer&defid=3936014 |
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